Posts Tagged ‘life’

Learning how to fly: nature vs. nurture

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Sometimes I wake up in the middle of a situation and I feel people are staring at me. It takes me a couple of seconds until I figure it out that they expect an answer from me to a question that I don’t want to respond. I prefer having my peace in the very little world I created around me.

I like not giving explanations every time I make a decision or I take an action. I already think too much before I act on something. I don’t want to be questioned by anybody just because this is considered to be a default. I fight the so-called standards as long as they don’t define me.

I’m afraid, but I’m courageous. I’m a piece of the puzzle. I’m all and nothing. I refuse to play by the book. I never close the doors behind me. Involuntary, I leave people wondering if I miss something to feel complete. As of recently, I found out that people perceive me as a person that doesn’t have strong opinions about the things happening around me. Trying to guess why this is the case, I came up with a very simple explanation. I accept everyone’s beliefs and wishes as long as nobody is forcing his on me. Therefore, I have no strong urges to impose my personal ideas/views. Additionally, I never express an opinion unless I have studied the subject. I guess for this attitude I have to blame academia and the fact that I dislike people that form an opinion out of thin air. Clearly, I’m a science person.

Since day 1, life is all about learning and developing. In the begining, we have our parents to guide us and teach us the dos and don’ts. Further, we have an entire system that was created to offer us the opportunity of a wider and brighter future. Then we should have the tools to explore the world we are living in. In the process, we learn that if we can pay attention to others, we may learn from their life experiences. In a way, witness a different life without getting out of bed.

Learning from others’ mistakes has its perks, but also it has its disadvantages. I skip some steps in the development process assuming that I will reach faster and easier my final station. Is that indeed better? Do I really save some time to invest in something else? Or am I just losing the sight of me? I don’t have an answer. The only thing I know for sure is that I’m learning how to fly and how to conquer this world bit by bit. With or without help, I’m on my way to an adventure and I’m open to explore. Life is what I make out of it. Let it be great then!

If I live or if I die, it’s surely all up to me.

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Did you try anything new lately?

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Do you know what we have now compared to our parents? We have opportunities! We have the liberty of choosing what we want to do. We have the possibility to be entirely ourself and still make it work. We don’t need to convince anybody about anything. However, we need to always keep in mind our goal.

It is perfectly fine to have a purpose in life. It doesn’t matter what is that, as long as you are happy and you feel accomplished. But we should always remember that we should not restrain our goal. We should always adjust it as we go. Don’t be conservative, because you will miss on chances. It is as simple as that!

When I was in my early teens I always imagined that by now I will have a child. I believe I had that vision because I could easily see myself having a proper family rather than a proper career. And no, it wasn’t because I wasn’t ambitious. I just weighted more having a husband and a child than a career. In the meanwhile, I grew and found new angles of myself and I decided that they are interesting to develop. Consequently, I focused my attention elsewhere keeping though an eye on my initial goal which had to be updated to comprise the new aspects.

Where do I stand now relative to my initial goal? Well, I’m not married and I’m not particularly interested in achieving this status. This is purely because marriage per se would not really change my current life. At the same time, I believe that I’m not prepared to be a parent yet either. Somebody might argue that I will never feel prepared which might as well be accurate. Somehow though, I feel that I still have some time left to get there.

Therefore, I’m focusing my attention on the other parts of my life goal. One of the things I have under my radar for the time being is my career. I’m developing my career because I have the chance and the time to learn from so many interesting people. Just yesterday I dined sitting next to 2 very famous gentlemen, the Captain and the Chief Engineer of the glorious vessel, Mærsk McKinney-Møller. Fantastic guys that had some good stories to share and, at the same time, were happy to answer questions coming from a rookie in the industry (i.e. myself).

If it is one thing I learned lately is that nobody expects you to know everything, but they expect you to dare and ask. Be genuinely interested in what you are doing! Don’t wait until you fell 120% comfortable to share an idea or to challenge a standard! Try new things as they come and believe it or not, you will see a change which will help you achieve everything you dreamed of right from the beginning. It is all a matter of perspective, remember that!

Experienţa oraşului Copenhaga!

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